This week, Trip and Tony take some time off while David gets caught up with our friend Kilma!
The first warning sign that a project is in trouble, often, is that little twinge where we begin to search for excuses.
You know what I’m talking about: that pre-loading of responses that our brain begins to compile, just in case. We think, “I can start doing this, and if it doesn’t work out the way I want it to, I can blame it on… [blank]”.
Some people even have “one size fits all” excuses, which they can pull out of their back pocket at any time. “I was a middle child”, “I’m a Virgo”, or “the deck is stacked against me”. We often do this without even realizing it, so that we have a rapid-fire response in case someone or something challenges our status, or lack of progress.
Our brains can often seem to be in a constant state of excuse-refinement. We never want to be under-prepared. We feel much more comforted, and in control, if we have a ready-made excuse when the bill collector calls or the police officer pulls you over.
The big problem here is that it serves as a constant reminder of all the factors in our lives that are out of our control.
Excuses, even valid ones, can often lend themselves to self-fulfilled prophecy. It allows us to be complacent. For example, we don’t have the time, so we don’t make the time.
So, how can we avoid having an excuse-driven life? As DJs, how can we push forward, in spite of the hurdles that we come up against?
Resources mentioned in this episode include:
Kilma's (awesome!) Blog
Advice For Busy DJs with Day Jobs (article)
The Ultimate 2016 DJ Planner (article)
You can email Kilma at email@example.com, or Tweet/Instagram her using the hashtag #AskKilma.